And so I’m back! (definitely not from outer space)

I am alive! Everyone, I’m aliiiiiiive! *insert squeaking emoticon here*

I have a lot of explaining to do as to why I haven’t blogged for the past couple of months. It’s been crazzzyyyy! Blessed, is what I am today. Great opportunities and big doors have opened for me and I am beyond grateful.

Maybe, those months of being nowhere to be found in the blogging world has done nothing but good to me. But meh, I missed you guys so I decided to at least write about my whereabouts and current conquests.

Not feeling all summer-y btw. The weather, yes. Very very summer-y. Actually no, the weather outside doesn’t feel like summer. It feels like hell has came terms with Earth and I can feel the soil screaming to its core. Intense like that. Summers should be warm, not scourging hot. The only thing important to me right now is my airconditioner. I think I’ll marry this one. Yeah?

I’ve been busy with my internship. I got accepted at Philippine Star. For most working days, I deal with news. Thank goodness I love reading news. It lightens the burden of having to know everything as soon I step in the office. Also, I’m with Metro Magazine right now. So happy I got in! The struggle I had to go through just to have this internship — unbelievable. I underwent three interviews. The first one was with the Human Resources manager and the other two were with the magazine’s editors. Imagine my brain cells at that moment. I think if it wasn’t for my confidence (which btw is one of my most treasured traits, thank you so much) I don’t think I will survive the process. And yes, thank you to my presence of mind for being so helpful. Those tips I got from a yoga website and me being a pretend Pilates lover did good to my internship. I think I have to be serious with the whole Pilates thing though.

Sadly, I had to turn down a couple of great opportunities due to my schedule. I think the “choose your battles” quote fits right into this. I’ll always be grateful for those which I now call “the ones that got away.” Maybe regret will sink in sooner or later but hey, it is these choices that define who I am and what I will be in the future right? In this regard, I have chosen the right battles….. I think… in my own twisted way.

 

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While you’re young

I was browsing through my Twitter feed when I came upon this very interesting read online and thought that I should share it with the rest of the world. Hands down to Jeff Goins for this! Love love love this article! 

Why you should travel young | by Jeff Goins

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As I write this, I’m flying. It’s an incredible concept: to be suspended in the air, moving    at two hundred miles an hour — while I read a magazine. Amazing, isn’t it?

I woke up at three a.m. this morning. Long before the sun rose, thirty people loaded up three conversion vans and drove two hours to the San Juan airport. Our trip was finished. It was time to go home. But we were changed.

As I sit, waiting for the flight attendant to bring my ginger ale, I’m left wondering why I travel at all. The other night, I was reminded why I do it — why I believe this discipline of travel is worth all the hassle.

I was leading a missions trip in Puerto Rico. After a day of work, as we were driving back to the church where we were staying, one of the young women brought up a question.

“Do you think I should go to graduate school or move to Africa?”

I don’t think she was talking to me. In fact, I’m pretty sure she wasn’t. But that didn’t stop me from offering my opinion.

I told her to travel. Hands down. No excuses. Just go.

She sighed, nodding. “Yeah, but…”

I had heard this excuse before, and I didn’t buy it. I knew the “yeah-but” intimately. I had uttered it many times before. The words seem innocuous enough, but are actually quite fatal.

Yeah, but …

… what about debt?

… what about my job?

… what about my boyfriend?

This phrase is lethal. It makes it sound like we have the best of intentions, when really we are just too scared to do what we should. It allows us to be cowards while sounding noble.

Most people I know who waited to travel the world never did it. Conversely, plenty of people who waited for grad school or a steady job still did those things after they traveled.

It reminded me of Dr. Eisenhautz and the men’s locker room.

Dr. Eisenhautz was a German professor at my college. I didn’t study German, but I was a foreign language student so we knew each other. This explains why he felt the need to strike up a conversation with me at six o’clock one morning.

I was about to start working out, and he had just finished. We were both getting dressed in the locker room. It was, to say the least, a little awkward — two grown men shooting the breeze while taking off their clothes.

“You come here often?” he asked. I could have laughed.

“Um, yeah, I guess,” I said, still wiping the crusted pieces of whatever out of my eyes.

“That’s great,” he said. “Just great.”

I nodded, not really paying attention. He had already had his adrenaline shot; I was still waiting for mine. I somehow uttered that a friend and I had been coming to the gym for a few weeks now, about three times a week.

“Great,” Dr. Eisenhautz repeated. He paused as if to reflect on what he would say next. Then, he just blurted it out. The most profound thing I had heard in my life.

“The habits you form here will be with you for the rest of your life.”

My head jerked up, my eyes got big, and I stared at him, letting the words soak into my half-conscious mind. He nodded, said a gruff goodbye, and left. I was dumbfounded.

The words reverberated in my mind for the rest of the day. Years later, they still haunt me. It’s true — the habits you form early in life will, most likely, be with you for the rest of your existence.

I have seen this fact proven repeatedly. My friends who drank a lot in college drink in larger quantities today. Back then, we called it “partying.” Now, it has a less glamorous name: alcoholism. There are other examples. The guys and girls who slept around back then now have babies and unfaithful marriages. Those with no ambition then are still working the same dead end jobs.

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“We are what we repeatedly do,” Aristotle once said. While I don’t want to sound all gloom-and-doom, and I believe your life can turn around at any moment, there is an important lesson here: life is a result of intentional habits. So I decided to do the things that were most important to me first, not last.

tumblr_m4g3snaMAh1qfik8to1_500_largeAfter graduating college, I joined a band and traveled across North America for nine months. With six of my peers, I performed at schools, churches, and prisons. We even spent a month in Taiwan on our overseas tour. (We were huge in Taiwan.)

As part of our low-cost travel budget, we usually stayed in people’s homes. Over dinner or in conversation later in the evening, it would almost always come up — the statement I dreaded. As we were conversing about life on the road — the challenges of long days, being cooped up in a van, and always being on the move — some well-intentioned adult would say, “It’s great that you’re doing this … while you’re still young.”

Ouch. Those last words — while you’re still young — stung like a squirt of lemon juice in the eye (a sensation with which I am well acquainted). They reeked of vicarious longing and mid-life regret. I hated hearing that phrase.

I wanted to shout back,

“No, this is NOT great while I’m still young! It’s great for the rest of my life! You don’t understand. This is not just a thing I’m doing to kill time. This is my calling! My life! I don’t want what you have. I will always be an adventurer.”

In a year, I will turn thirty. Now I realize how wrong I was. Regardless of the intent of those words, there was wisdom in them.

As we get older, life can just sort of happen to us. Whatever we end up doing, we often end up with more responsibilities, more burdens, more obligations. This is not always bad. In fact, in many cases it is really good. It means you’re influencing people, leaving a legacy.

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Youth is a time of total empowerment. You get to do what you want. As you mature and gain new responsibilities, you have to be very intentional about making sure you don’t lose sight of what’s important. The best way to do that is to make investments in your life so that you can have an effect on who you are in your later years.

I did this by traveling. Not for the sake of being a tourist, but to discover the beauty of life — to remember that I am not complete.

tumblr_lzgnma4G5I1r9zpbzo1_500 There is nothing like riding a bicycle across the Golden Gate Bridge or seeing the  Coliseum at sunset. I wish I could paint a picture for you of how incredible the Guatemalan mountains are or what a rush it is to appear on Italian TV. Even the amazing photographs I have of Niagara Falls and the American Midwest countryside do not do these experiences justice. I can’t tell you how beautiful southern Spain is from the vantage point of a train; you have to experience it yourself. The only way you can relate is by seeing them.

 

While you’re young, you should travel. You should take the time to see the world and taste the fullness of life. Spend an afternoon sitting in front of the Michelangelo. Walk the streets of Paris. Climb Kilimanjaro. Hike the Appalachian trail. See the Great Wall of China. Get your heart broken by the “killing fields” of Cambodia. Swim through the Great Barrier Reef. These are the moments that define the rest of your life; they’re the experiences that stick with you forever.

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Traveling will change you like little else can. It will put you in places that will force you to care for issues that are bigger than you. You will begin to understand that the world is both very large and very small. You will have a newfound respect for pain and suffering, having seen that two-thirds of humanity struggle to simply get a meal each day.

tumblr_me5tymUqHB1rbsre4o1_500 While you’re still young, get cultured. Get to know the world and the magnificent people that fill it. The world is a stunning place, full of outstanding works of art. See it.

 You won’t always be young. And life won’t always be just about you. So travel, young person. Experience the world for all it’s worth. Become a person of culture, adventure, and compassion. While you still can.

 Do not squander this time. You will never have it again. You have a crucial opportunity to invest in the next season of your life now. Whatever you sow, you will eventually reap. The habits you form in this season will stick with you for the rest of your life. So choose those habits wisely.

tumblr_lq3uvzjo7J1qf351bo1_500And if you’re not as young as you’d like (few of us are), travel anyway. It may not be easy or practical, but it’s worth it. Traveling allows you to feel more connected to your fellow human beings in a deep and lasting way, like little else can. In other words, it makes you more human.

That’s what it did for me, anyway.

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GG Thursday: Monstrous Ball

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With the recent explosion of bombs, looks like my favorite girl (smell the sarcasm) is loveless and best friend-less. Thank God Serena’s life is finally over. But of course I know they won’t let her character die in the end though I wish they would.

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Gossip Girl is not Gossip Girl without cotillions, galas, balls and social gatherings encompassing the best of New York. With tonight’s episode, Sage is in rage after finding out that her dad, Steven, is going to ask Serena to marry him. To end her father’s dream of having Serena on his arms, Sage asked for B’s help to cancel the proposal.

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When Georgina realized that Dan is back to his delusional episodes for Blair, she threatened him that she will release that video of him and Serena making out — seconds before Blair decided to choose Chuck.

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But before the great Georgina Sparks could break the news herself, looks like Sage saved her the effort. Way to go, girl!

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Before the scandal went out, B and S ended their girl war. Too bad, Steven’s little girl got them a new battle.

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Oh how I love that Chuck and Blair ends every episode right. Thank you for the gift of redemption, you two lovey doveys. At least I can sleep well.

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5 episodes left and it’s a wrap for Gossip Girl! /ENDLESS SOBS./ 

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Page-turner: The Duff

After Looking for Alaska, (btw, my entry for this one will be up, soon!) I got so excited to read a new title. I need to get a breather and so I decided to hop on a light YA novel. And that brought me to this. 

The Duff by Kody Keplinger. 

BookDuffComing from a very very gripping and unputdownable (if there is such a word) book which is Beautiful Disaster,  (entry here.) my struggle can be defined by the question, “What to read next?” See that’s a problem I always encounter whenever I finish a good read. Dammit call me a sucker for chick lit but hell yeah, I had (still having btw) a hard time looking for something that can surpass the feeling that Beautiful Disaster gave me. Screw you, Travis Maddox. 

Anyway………….. I decided to pick up The Duff after a lot of thinking and contemplating. To give you a glimpse of what the book is all about, you could simply refer to your High School life. Lucky for you if you’re not the Duff (Designated Ugly Fat Friend) then you can’t prolly relate to the story. But well if you kinda feel like you’re the odd one in the group (that unattractive kind of girl that boys can’t or DON’T usually date) then tada! This book is made for you. (Or for us?) 

Bianca Piper is the Duff. While most of her friends enjoy the pleasure of being a girl like clubbing, shopping and boys, Bianca was different. But it wasn’t as if her world was so close to a total collapse after realizing that she is a Duff. As a matter of fact, she perfectly knew well that she is definitely different. She’s an absolute idealist. She despises boys and drama. She believes that love is something that you don’t feel in High School. And most especially, she hates Wesley Rush. That Greek god-looking, hot and irresistible Wesley Rush. If 99% of the student body adores that guy, well Bianca is that missing 1%. 

Until they met on a Friday night.

With Bianca’s current situation regarding family ties and ex-boyfriend dilemmas, the last thing she needs is a boy like Wesley Rush. But surprisingly, she made up her mind that he is exactly what she needs at this very moment. He can serve as a distraction from all the lemons life is giving her.

Their secret affair went on for weeks. Basically, they are not in a relationship and they just use each other to deal with their respective dramas. They are having the best time of their lives…… until they realized that they are more than just sleeping partners. 

Lol! Reading this book feels like I’m reading my life’s story.

The Duff was cute and light. Not as solid as the other YA novels I have read but it was nice enough to keep me up till 1AM. In all honesty, the story got me. Not in a kilig way but you know, more on the serious level. I can relate to Bianca’s character so much. We’re both bitter, empty, stiff, occasionally boring and well… cynical. We both have trust issues. Just like her, I have a lot of hangups. This is the reason why I did enjoy the book. I see myself in her.

As for Wesley Rush, I can’t deny the fact that he was something. Although I was expecting more sincerity from his character but nevertheless, he was… okay. Male book characters like Wesley are not a shocker for me. I’ve read Fifty Shades for God’s sake. But he was too ordinary. Too ordinary that he has the slightest chance on being listed as one of those book boyfriends you wish would come to life.

All in all, The Duff was catchy and… steady. Maybe 3 out of 5 stars. 

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GG Thursday: Portrait of a Lady Alexander

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Past bedtime stories, scandals and….. horses. Episode 4 is so full of these!

Remember my last GG entry? I’m so happy to finally see my otp together in action! With Chuck’s determination to unlock Bart’s secret, Blair comes in very very handy. Her impeccable ability in scheming helped Chuck discover Bart’s great fascination to horses. Or not.

Unfortunately, Bart was smarter than them. Well, smart enough to figure out that his son is up to something. Boom. Busted.

But the biggest “eew moment” of the season goes to…………….. (drum roll please)….

LILY. Like mother, like daughter. It turns out that Lily had a past with Serena’s new guy. And by past I mean, a past bedtime story. Woot! Once a VW, always a VW. Oh well.

Sage is such a savior! Disregard (for a moment) the fact that her style is awful, her anger for Serena just keeps on getting better! And I looooooooooove it! Can I please see a decent goodbye episode for this girl? She deserves an award or something.

 

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Knowing the real deal

This is an enlightening article I’ve read on Rappler. I already posted this on my Facebook wall and I decided to put this here as well. I, for one, is guilty on this. As a Communication student, it is my foremost obligation to be aware of the things around me. It may be political happenings, whereabouts of public figures or news, in general. One’s goal to be well-informed is made easier with the help of the internet. But your eagerness accompanied by the poison that is brought about by the world wide web can be dangerous. You can either end up smarter or worse, dumber. 

Online civic engagement: Is it for real? by Buena Bernal | Posted on 10/12/2012 Rappler.com

Ever heard of narcotizing dysfunction?

It’s a negative effect of media consumption wherein an individual develops a dangerous illusion of active participation simply by knowing a lot about social issues, mindlessly supposing that knowledge expansion is tantamount to political action.

This illusion, according to Paul Lazarsfeld and Robert Merton, is dangerous because it prevents us from tapping into the proactive solutions available in our community.

In their own words, Lazarsfeld and Merton wrote: “That the mass media have lifted the level of information of large populations is evident. Yet, quite apart from intent, increasing dosages of mass communication may be inadvertently transforming the energies of men from active participation into passive knowledge.”

At a time of what seems to be information overload brought about by the worldwide Web, it is hard not to suspect that this dysfunction plagues most of us netizens who constitute our society’s well-educated middle class.

The educated middle class always has something to say on every topic imaginable. But the truth remains: knowledge does not substitute for action.

A discourse on the evils of carbon atmospheric concentration helps very little if you’re not actually cutting down on your own carbon emissions.

Being familiar with the narrative of the Arab Spring doesn’t mean we’re advocates of democratic reform. Knowing about China’s oppression of the Uighurs and the Tibetans doesn’t make us human rights activists.

The power of social media

Is liking a Facebook page on agrarian reform tantamount to joining advocates in their nationwide rally? Is tweeting about the forests in Palawan going to change the value system of our country’s illegal loggers? Is a concerned netizen equal to a concerned citizen?

I’m quite sure it isn’t yet, but that doesn’t mean it cannot be. It is up to us to harness technology so that its utility might be for the better and so that the net gain utility-wise makes up for the limitations of the medium. The challenge is to constantly innovate and pursue ways by which we can use social media to advocate for reform and mobilize communities.

This is not just a rehash of the concept of technology being neutral, as I don’t believe it in its absolute sense. I think that in many ways the medium is the message, too.

Social media as an agent of social change affirms both contrasting viewpoints about technology. The unique features of the Internet – cross-border exchange, interactivity, hyperlinking, ability to select which content to access – shape who we are. At the same time, we can use these features either to produce good social outcomes or to serve our own self-interests.

The burden is not so much on social media (given that it is inherently a powerful channel of distribution), as it is on the people using it. What will you choose to do as a social media user who is privileged to be both a consumer and a producer of online content?

Raising the quality of discourse

My professor tells our class that social media is plagued by exhibitionists, that it has fostered an overpopulation of celebrity-wannabe’s.

True. Social media feeds on our self-absorption.

This is why responsible online journalism exists and must exist. To infuse mechanisms of quality control in a rather free-for-all environment. To establish the same “confidence in the source” as the reason why users access sites. To set the bar higher for Web-based content. To glorify the truth-seeking communicators over the “exhibitionists” and “celebrity wannabes.”

Online journalism, through the use of various forms of social media, seeks to diversify and hopefully raise the quality of discourse on the Internet.

The interactive feature of social media makes it easier for people to air their views and responses. Quite conveniently, we are able to enter what used to be the exclusive domain of the media. More importantly, we are able to set the agenda according to what matters to us, and frame the agenda in a way that it reflects our collective voice.

Heightened public scrutiny

Do you remember that local clothing retail brand whose main goal in its “mix” campaign was to sell fashion pieces but which instead ended up spurring the online community to a commentary on racial politics and national identity? Or the bias for fairer skin tones being propagated through local advertisements?

Years ago, the same set of advertisements wouldn’t have earned the ire of many Filipinos. We wouldn’t have read into those subtle messages and just taken in whatever was being fed to us.

Media messages have long been creating “new cultural items” to which we have passively adapted to. It is indeed sad when these messages reinforce bigotry and negative stereotypes, glamorize crime and delinquency, or endorse forms of relative morality that harm both self and society. It is even sadder, though, when people fail to scrutinize these messages.

We are no longer passive consumers of content. We have become more critical of what we read and what we see. I’m guessing this is not solely because of a positive change in the quality of our education, but is also because we have integrated ourselves into a culture of shared knowledge through the Internet.

The Internet should be hijacked for the good. It is perhaps the only place where the thoughts of those privileged with more experience and education can be freely accessed by those with less privilege, where the concern of one through a single click of the mouse can become the concern of many, and where the struggles of people from the other side of the globe are transported straight to wherever your laptop is.

Through the Internet, responsible civic engagement can potentially spread like wildfire if only we choose to allow it.

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Page-turner: Beautiful Disaster

Reading a book so good that you have to peel yourself off so you won’t finish it all in one day – Unfortunately, I failed this. Solid epic fail.

Beautiful Disaster is a young adult book by Jamie McGuire. 

Honestly, in this world where books with Fifty Shades of Grey-ish feel is a trend, this novel will surely face a lot of comparison with the E.L. James bestseller. However, Beautiful Disaster is different and way way waaaaay better. Sarreh, Christian Grey fans, Travis Maddox is sexier. 

I’ve heard a lot of (good and bad) reviews about this and so I thought I should give it a try. Thank God, I did. 

The story starts off with Abby Abernathy. Abby’s life revolves around her school, her dorm, and her best friend America. Her life is in order. Or at least that’s what she thinks. 

Travis Maddox, on the other hand, is a total wreck. He bags ‘em girls everywhere, tattoos are all over his body, he smokes, he parties as if it’s the end of the world and…….. he doesn’t do girlfriends. Never. 

After losing a bet to Travis, Abby has to stay at his apartment for a month. He saw her as someone that he could trust his life with. While they both refuse to engage in a commitment, the burning feelings inside them grew stronger. Abby made him informed about her rules and reservations and he accepted it. Friends, that’s what they thought they are. Until their resistance into giving in made them realize that friendship is not what they want. It’s more than that. 

They may be complicated in their own little way, together, they are a beautiful disaster. 

First of all, I love the complex slash platonic relationship these two share. It makes the book even more impossible to put down! I’m serious! I read a few reviews about it before searching for an online reader. After reading two chapters, I went straight to Fully Booked and got myself a copy! It’s insanely addictive and gripping! 

Second of all, it’s not a new concept. I have read a lot of stories with the same background and plot. But there’s something about the characters and the way the author presented them that will absolutely leave a mark on you. Damn near genius! It will drive you crazy (say that this is an exaggeration but idc). The first part is so goooooooooooooooooooood. Idk if it’s just because I’m attracted to guys like Travis or because I’m more into the “chasing” kind of relationship (e.g Chuck and Blair.) but I really really really can’t stop reading it!

Most of all, the story was beautifully made. It’s not perfect. But it’s interesting enough to be phenomenal. No wonder it’s a New York Bestseller.

I barely slept last night! Oh dear heavens above, forgive me but I think I’m in love with a fictional character. Beautiful Disaster is definitely a page-turner! With this kind of love, I’ll take a chance and bet. 

[!!!] Alert! Alert! Alert! 

Walking Disaster will be released early April 2013! 20freaking13! The book will be from Travis’ point of view! Idk what to feel anymore! I bet it would be sweeter this time around! Ugh I need a daily dose of the book teasers to keep me alive till 2013! Travis Maddox is the sexiest man ever written! (yet.) 

Would I recommend this book? HELL YEAH. 

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